Who’s perspective are you using?Self-Worth, Self-Respect, Self-Image, Self-Esteem

“Who’s perspective are you using?”

Well, stop that, get your own!

PERSPECTIVE

Definition: a mental view or prospect; a visible scene;  the interrelation in which a subject or its parts are mentally viewed;  the capacity to view things in their true relations or relative importance; 

https://www.merriam-webster.com

Studying mental fortitude, and learning how important the mental picture of ourselves is, I have discovered that when I focus on my past to try and learn from it, I conjure up a picture of myself when I was small and dirty and poor.

The picture of myself that I carry in my soul is one of myself standing in the breech, with the picture painted so perfectly by old Bill Shakespeare, “Once more unto the breach, dear friends, once more;”

https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/56972/speech-once-more-unto-the-breach-dear-friends-once-more

I know how God views me. “You are precious and honored in my sight.”

I can only guess what the worlds perspective is.

As I’ve been writing weekly for davebosquez.com, and using it as a training ground, I have been sharing my fears, my victories, my lessons and my words, in an attempt to capture my journey and learn how to share it with a broader audience.

Studying ‘manhood’ and writing my next book, The Definite Dad, I’ve come to the topic of being vulnerable and whether or not a man or a dad needs to be vulnerable.

Some say, “It shows weakness.” Others say, “It shows your humility,” I believe it is dis-arming to those who may want to attack me.

“…weakness invites the wolves.” ~ Sen. John Kennedy (R-La.)

I’m sharing myself and my foibles, what else are you going to do… take away my birthday?

Today’s share is another fear that I’m looking at. I am afraid that when I “go live” with my next book and step up with some other components to support it, that I will be perceived as just another guy, parroting everyone else, not saying anything spectacular, or adding anything new to the conversation of being a dad, or manhood in general.

Here is why… as I look at the industry of writing and of motivational coaches I was left to wonder, “What are we really producing? It’s not like we are building factories to build a specific product that people need, that will create jobs, because really… how many hats, shoes or branded coffee mugs does the world need?”

You my readers are my sounding board. You allow me to have someone to talk to. To work out my thoughts. To organize my personal perspective.

In return I hope you can glean an insight, idea, or tactic that you can stop and think about, that you might apply to your life in some form or fashion. To continue your growth… you are growing aren’t you?

Identifying that you need to fix something in your life is a huge step in developing a better life for yourself. I am becoming more and more confident in myself and my abilities to help others as I have opportunities that have presented themselves recently to talk to and help a few people.

If you feel my sharing personal fears and foibles is unmanly, weak, or lacks conviction, I would ask you then to examine why your feelings are heightened about that.

What is it exactly that you dislike about a man who shares in this manner??? Are you in control of your own emotions? Your anger, your disgust, your apathy… do you care/don’t care?

Being almost the end of the first week of February, 2020, take a moment to look back to the first of the year… what picture pops into your head… February is short… what mental picture do you have for the immediate future?

“Who’s perspective are you using?”